Today marks three years sine our wedding on 07/01/2017. You can play catch up on wedding posts starting here if you are new & missed it! Last year I shared a fun two year anniversary post, so I thought it would be fun to do another one to celebrate year three!
For this year’s anniversary post, I thought it would be fun if both Charles & I shared three things we’ve learned in our time of being married. We’ve been together almost nine years & married for three, so while we definitely knew each other well before getting married, we’ve learned some things since we said ‘I do.’
- Breaks are Okay: This may come in the form of one of us being silent when the other is irritable, hungry, or even mad. It may be going out for a walk, grabbing dinner with a friend, or just sitting in different rooms for a bit. It doesn’t mean someone doesn’t love you, it just means that sometimes a short break & time to yourself to regroup is necessary.
- Seasons Change: This has been a big one! I used to be beyond if Charles brought over a bottle of wine or came home with flowers, while I still LOVE those things, we often have wine on hand at home or I grab flowers on weekly grocery runs. I still absolutely love when he brings me some, but now I am often elated by acts of service such as putting together a new piece of furniture or giving the dogs a bath. For him, I may cook dinner, clean the house, or put away his laundry for him. Romantic gestures will change as the seasons of life change & that’s okay!
- Support is Key: There is nothing better than the support of your partner. Supporting each other, but still being able to challenge & motivate one another, is key. Charles & I have both switched jobs while being together & this past year I quit my job to pursue my blog full time. Without his support, I would have never gotten through some of these big life transitions. If you are on the same team & encourage one another, it will take you further together!
- Do things for your spouse without being asked– Make the bed, fold their laundry, pick up flowers from the store. These small gestures can show your spouse you’re thinking about them & you respect their busy schedule.
- Know when to speak up (and when to keep your mouth shut) – There are times when you need to provide words of support to your spouse. It may also be appropriate at times to calmly voice your differing opinions. And then there are moments when your spouse is frustrated about something (maybe not even something you did) when it is better to just keep quiet. You may think you’re being helpful, but you’re just adding to their frustration about said thing.
- Travel together (after this whole pandemic thing calms down) – Some of our best memories have been made while traveling together, both in the States & abroad. Even the worst travel experiences make for great stories! *It was FAR worse than she made it out to be here.*
I hope you all like seeing a glimpse into three things we each learned about marriage in honor of three years of marriage today! We plan to celebrate with some good food for takeout & by opening a nice bottle of wine that we’ve been saving for a special occasion. If you want to watch our wedding video you can see it here or catch up on our wedding day posts by starting with this one. XO